Thursday, March 24, 2016

Rainbows and Snow

I decided to upgrade to Windows 10. I was sitting gazing out the window idly thinking to myself how boring all white is.

Grandpa Rose was doing his upgrade as well across from me and I exclaim, "I have an idea"! "UtOh," he says, "What's that"?

"I think all white when it snows is so boring especially when it's supposed to be Spring, wouldn't it be so cool if it snowed rainbow colors"?

As an afterthought that doesn't mean go outside and write your name in the snow!

What do you daydream about?

Saturday, March 19, 2016

Hold On To Your Hats!

Smiles come in all shapes and forms. I was sitting at my laptop trying to blog or I could have been over at Google +. Wherever I was I was waiting for that little hamster wheel to stop spinning as I explained over at +Jeremy Crow 's Humor blog.

My sigh was a long one and Grandpa Rose chuckles and tells me he felt that from over on his side. Deep into whatever I was up to I had no idea what he was referring to so he informs me that my sigh was like the North Wind, good thing he had a shaved head or it would have blown back!

I giggle thinking and then saying out loud, my sigh was cold? To which he replied oh yeah, it was a hot breeze which I broke in and we both at the same time exclaimed: "from the South"!
Now I owe him another Coke.

Friday, March 18, 2016

Step Fathers, An Evolutionary Tale,

Why does the 'Step' parent get such a bad wrap.

They're up against the wall before they're started, they put pressure on themselves,  not only to win over the new partner but to win over the child or children involved! for the love to make it a happy home.

Kids get it... maybe way before the adults do...he's not the Dad- but sort of does Dad like stuff, What's the best thing to do!, what's not!, how to stay sane, how to get maximum enjoyment out of kids who are not biologically yours.

I feel for my partner that all the tips in the world doesn't compensate for living the real thing!. Basically how do you say to the man in your life, (my two girls were 9yrs & 12yrs old when we got together) to just treat them like they're your own! When he's never had children!

It takes time and patience, lots of love and he doesn't always get it  right (nor do I). If you help to keep order, maintain peace but don't strive to have great input into who they are, you don't engage on any level, other than, " Would you like tomato sauce with that?", its always going to be a minefield. Don't sweat the small stuff.

This was all at the beginning of our relationship with my partner, now on our eighteenth happy year together, learning that you can beat yourself up about how else you could or should have done things, but what you discover along the way is that something else happens all by itself quite unexpectedly, you all can become true friends, have the trust, respect and pride like any parent can have.

You may not be called 'Dad' (or Mum) but having a thankful relationship with that child/children, for when they become adults and parents of their own children, it becomes clear, you can receive rewards in other wonderful ways, like in my partners case, you can get to be called 'Gran-DAD'.

Tuesday, March 15, 2016



Sunday, March 13, 2016

Smile and Say Hello

As a rule, when I go out for a walk and see someone walking up and passing me I will smile and say hello. When a car goes by and it's coming towards me I will smile and wave a hello. It's just my nature.

When I went for my last walk I had walked up to where the bridge is turning left to continue over the water under the bridge. It's a two layered bridge! Coming towards me in the distance I see a figure coming towards me dressed in what I call 'rapper's clothes' but that's okay, each to their own. As the figure gets closer this person has a baseball cap on so I can't tell male or female yet but as we close in on each other I smile and say hello, how are you today?

'She' is wearing the baseball hat with shortish white hair coming out, dark sunglasses, a big hoodie, dark blue, baggie shorts, short socks and tennis shoes. When she opened her mouth I could see gaps where she used to have a tooth and she replied the same back to me. I have befriended or been friendly with all sorts of people from all walks of life so to me this was just one more.

When she asked me how I was I turned telling her I was a new grandma with one on the way. She tells me she's pregnant which mentally one eyebrow went up, and it's her third one. All I could picture was little baby rappers running around.

As I made my way up to the store, I got what I wanted returning home I see this young woman again coming in my direction (that's how small our town is) again so I call out, "wow you sure get around"! to which I got the rapper's 'what's up nod' and I say this with a big smile.

It's surprising what you can glean out of a very short time of contact.

Do you say hello when your out for a walk?

Wednesday, March 2, 2016

Lavender Inspiration: Why You Should Let Your Children See You Dance

Beautiful, yep...Beautiful

Lavender Inspiration: Why You Should Let Your Children See You Dance: Throughout their childhood, it is imperative that you let your children see the free spirit inside of you, even if it embarrasses them ...